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Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Just A Thought For Commenters.....

My daughter in Philadelphia just sent this to my email. Maybe the 6 suggestions at the end of this article should be considered before you post a comment.

Being Wise in Your Relationships

by Rick Warren

Today's Devotional is based on this passage:
"But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace-loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness" (James 3:17-18 NLT).

Every person you know is unique. Each one is a complex blend of background, temperament, and giftedness. Yet, these differences are often the root of relational conflict. Uniqueness poses all kinds of communication problems-so often we simply don't understand each other! We may use the same words but with very different meaning.

We're wise when we recognize and value the differences in people. Our uniqueness requires that we use wisdom in order to relate to others in customized ways, rather than relating to everyone with the same, rigid style, as if everyone will think and respond the same way.

The Bible tells us the characteristics of genuine wisdom: "The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure and full of quiet gentleness. Then it is peace-loving and courteous. It allows discussion and is willing to yield to others; it is full of mercy and good deeds. It is wholehearted and straightforward and sincere. And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of goodness" (James 3:17-18 LB).

From these verses we learn six ways to be wise when we relate to others. If I am biblically wise...

1. I will not compromise my integrity (wisdom is pure). I'll be honest with you. I'll keep my promises and commitments to you.

2. I will not antagonize your anger (wisdom is peace-loving). I'll work at maintaining harmony. I won't push your hot buttons.

3. I will not minimize your feelings (wisdom is courteous). I may not feel as you do, but I won't ignore or ridicule how you feel.

4. I will not criticize your suggestions (wisdom allows discussion). I can disagree with you without being disagreeable.

5. I will not emphasize your mistakes (wisdom is full of mercy). Instead of rubbing it in, I'll rub it out.

6. I will not disguise my motivations (wisdom is wholehearted and sincere). I'll be authentic with you. I won't con or manipulate you.

23 comments :

Tez said...

Great post!! I really hope that readers will actually take this into consideration rather than dismissing it.

Anonymous said...

ditto on 4:57 PM

Anonymous said...

yea ok...Holly roller

Anonymous said...

Holly roller! Is it christmas time already?

Anonymous said...

What does holy roller have to do with good ol fashion values!! Get a life!! 6/10-7:30-Duh!! Brad Jones

Anonymous said...

It always amazes me some of the comments on this blog site....people tend to be very brave when they remain "anonymous".

I'm no different!

Anonymous said...

Maybe this world would be a better place if everyone didn't think "Holy Roller" at the mere mention of God! Look at the other "picture" here....it might actually help you in a relationship! And spell 'holy' correctly please....you are trying to ridicule someone and you can't even spell it right!

Anonymous said...

wouldn't it be a great world if people actually thought before they spoke. great points made in the article.

joshhatcher said...

Jim...

I recommend NOT disabling all negative comments, but requiring a user id.


the negativity would be a lot less bold if someone had to have a name next to their comment.

Anonymous said...

You people here must be living in a fantasy world where everything is perfect. Wake up. You need to get out and explore the outside world. What year is it? Holly Roller.

Anonymous said...

God doesn't exist. The only thing left for you after this life is a dirt nap. Get over it. These 6 suggestions would make the blog less interesting.

Anonymous said...

Either disable comments or leave them anonymous. It's ridiculous to make people sign their posts, all that would do is discourage honest dialogue for fear of being chastised for having a differing opinion. All you're doing is empowering the "Good Ol Boys".

john said...

Hey Jim thanks for the site it is great .just make eveyone sign . and don't be like the potter enterprise and let rules be differ when the editor whats print a onsinged one . keep up good work John Dunn Ulysses

Anonymous said...

AWESOME DEVOTION! Would love to know where it came from. I wish the skeptics could actually feel the Hand of God in thier lives just once. They would never be the same again.
Mary Clark

Anonymous said...

11:42 I disagree!! Making people sign their names will only encourage honest posts!!! Idle gossip, slander, and unfair judgment come from those that don’t have to post their names. Only when Jim requires folks to post their names will people make sure that they are making an educated opinion that contains facts, rather than personal slander. Requiring people to sign their names has nothing to do with freedom of opinion or expression. Signing your name to your post just makes sure you keep your ethics in check!!

Anonymous said...

I say leave blogs as is, and anonymous. We are ALL entitled to our opinions, and we must have the freedem to express them.

Anonymous said...

Whatever happened to freedom of speech?

Anonymous said...

12:20 - I suppose it all depends on what you want discussion on Solomon's Words to be like. Do you want it to be a bunch of friends glad handing and patting each other on the back or an open and honest conversation about the issues that affect us as a community? The world isn't a nice a place and rather than facing it, people seem more content to grab their security blanket and act like everthing's all peaches. Whatever Jim does I'll still read for the news but I'd be very upset if a part of why I love this site so much disappears but people can't handle a dissenting opinion.

Anonymous said...

If I have to sign my name it will be a fake name. If I have to sign up, I'll sign up with a fake name. If I have to use email to sign in, i'll create a fake email account. Either way I'll post on here anonymously every time I feel like it. If posts are taken away, it's no longer a blog.

Anonymous said...

I don't understand where the concern reagarding faith enters in. Regardless of a religous backing these are good points and in good context. Religous or not this is how you should deal with people. Taking it as strictly religous and discounting it on that basis would be a serisously poor choice.

Anonymous said...

I say leave the comments as they are. I like being able see what people are really thinking rather than just a muted, toned down response. Besides, making people log in to a google account is still mostly Anonymous.

As for 7:30:00 saying "Holly roller", I would

joshhatcher said...

Maybe you don't all know how a blog works. This is Jim's blog.

he works hard to maintain it.

it's up to him what comments he allows on his site.

that's not censorship.
if someone comes in my house, and starts insulting my wife or my kids, our even using foul language in front of them, I have a right to say something about it, to ask them to stop, and to ask them to leave. I have that authority.

Here, Jim has that authority.

Censorship is when someone (usually a government) limits the free speech of another.

The way I see it, you ALL have the right to sign up for your own blog and say whatever you want about any of the news on Jim's site. If he disables comments, or refuses to post incendiary comments, that's his call, but it doesn't effect your freedom of speech at all. It may effect who will read your opinions, but it doesn't stop you from voicing your opinion.

If Jim doesn't want your crap on here, he doesn't HAVE to have it on here, and that's HIS freedom of speech.

Anonymous said...

Well said Josh!!! Brad Jones