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Friday, March 15, 2019

Think About It

by Pastor B.J. Knefley

I recently wrote about the idea of the unexpected. The unexpected are of course those things that happen that you didn’t expect. They can come in the form of death, illness, job, and natural disasters or through a host of other avenues that you didn’t see coming. Since my latest event I have joined an on-line group called The Zipper Club. This refers to those people who have experienced open heart surgery for a variety of reasons and have joined together as a support group to share their experiences so as to help others.

I’m a strong believer in the idea that you are more affected by how you respond to what happens to you, rather than with what happened. It goes along with the question do things happen to us or for us? The more that we can stay out of the victim role the better off we will weather the storm. As a result of what I’ve experienced I have learned and am learning a side of life that I never knew existed. It has also opened up an whole new understanding and empathy for people who I have never met but have a shared common experienced.

Through out all of this I’m coming to understand that your foundation has a lot to do with the outcome of your experience. In other words if you see it as the end, or a mountain to big to climb then it will be. But if it’s just another bridge to cross, no matter how difficult, you will move forward in hope and the power to actually improve the healing process.

The question that each of us must wrestle with is what are we made of? What is at our core, our foundation? What motivates us to get up and get moving? Why is it that one person can face adversity with resilience and another folds under the same or similar adversity? Sometimes I’m not sure if it’s taught or caught. For example two people from the same family can come at life from two different perspectives, one of hope and the other of despair. The foundation must be present before the event. It is the foundation that either supports or crumbles under the weight of trials. Think about it.


Anonymous said...

thank You!

Grammy said...

Thanks for this superb piece!I believe that strong faith is a great basis for resilience with a smile. Knowing what's a the end of our journey makes all the difference in the walk.

Anonymous said...

I agree with much of what you say, sort of like the power of positive thinking. But I notice you joined a support group, and that makes me think your foundation was not as strong as you suggest, but was strengthened by the event you experienced, and when you took comfort among others to bolster your strength.

We are all different and respond differently to events in our lives. One of the worst things we have a tendency to do to others is to make them feel shame or guilt at having fallen on hard times, no matter the reason. The other variable is how many events a person has had to deal with. Maybe we should tend more to our own business unless our interaction with others is to offer support and not judgement. It's a problem I see with many religious sects and faiths, as well as most of our political class. They pretend to offer compassion and empathy, but often it's accompanied by a pointed finger. Does that make sense?

You seemed to imply that those lacking what you call a proper foundation are inferior. That's judgmental. You don't know their specific circumstances and what they've been through.

I do enjoy your musings and try to learn from them. Thanks for sharing.