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Friday, August 5, 2022

Think About It

Grief
By
B.J. Knefley

Grief, we’ve all experienced it, and it’s different for each. In one moment you think you’ve been through all that grief can give you and then you find out there’s more. How do you move forward?

In the book “God Is In The TOUGH Stuff, Bruce and Stan describe grief as having many steps. They are as follows: The Shock; Emotion; Loneliness; Distress; Panic; Guilt; Anger; Resistance; Hope; and Faith. And if you’ve been through grief you know that some steps seem to be repeated. For some the repeat button seems to be stuck, but is it?

I wish I could give everyone a simple formula for walking through the different steps of grief, but I can’t. We each have to walk the journey ourselves. There are no pat answers and although people mean well, their attempts at helping us to feel better often fall flat.

In the Scriptures, it is recorded that Jesus wept over the death of Lazarus. It’s interesting to read that when you considered that he was then going to raise him from the dead. Why would he weep when he knew that he was going to live again? Was some of the weeping because of the pain of others? Does he take on our pain and suffering? After all the Scriptures also say that he was a man who is acquainted with pain and suffering. Perhaps this is why hope and faith are so important in the journey of grief.

I have found that there are many who do not have a good foundation when it comes to dealing with grief. All of the steps that were mentioned before are intensified. Mainly because there is no hope or faith. Interestingly, people who pursue the spiritual side of life often have a deep foundation in which to rely upon. I’m not referring to a religious spirituality although that can be part of it, but rather spirituality that’s formed through meditation, quiet reflection, reading, music and numerous other modalities. The takeaway for all of this is that spiritually focused people generally handle life’s struggles better than those who aren’t. Think about it.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Seems that Bruce and Dan are somewhat left of center. And actually, there's not a whole lot to "think about". Grief? Been there, done that. Sometimes it's just plain crushing. And other times grief is just a pesty annoyance. But it's a human emotion that will affect us all, given enough time. "Think about it". But know this. If you need a hug of support, give Bruce or Dan a ring.

Anonymous said...

Different people grieve in different ways, and some longer than others. But I believe one thing is certain. If you are a spiritual person, it helps you along the way. I don't know how some people make it through tough times without leaning on God and spending time with Him each day. God is ALL we need.

Anonymous said...

Grief turns your mind into mush.

Anonymous said...

Amen 3:46 PM, agree 💯%❗️🙋‍♀️